One instrument that has the power to build or destroy relationships is communication. It is an extremely potent tool that must be handled with extreme caution and judgment. It is a skill that, when applied properly, can be advantageous. Communication is the only way for people to be influenced. Therefore, developing effective communication skills is crucial. Research indicates that 90% of relationship failures are caused by improper communication, whether between partners, family, or in any other social or professional context. The foundation of a strong relationship is communication. By bridging the distance between lovers, it promotes emotional intimacy, trust, and understanding. Relationship problems can result from misconceptions, conflict, and disconnection brought on by ineffective communication.
Many people communicate in ways that only cause harm and distance between them. Sarcasm, blame, criticism, putdowns, and persistent whining are examples of communication styles that lead to emotional and mental abuse. A vicious cycle of cause and effect occurs when someone speaks incorrectly, and the loop continues. The relationship becomes even more resentful as a result. Therefore, all of this must end, and proper communication must begin.
Partners can express their needs, wants, and concerns when there is open communication. It clarifies expectations and avoids misunderstandings. Respect and gratitude are demonstrated by listening to and validating one another’s viewpoints. To understand your partner’s point of view, try to put yourself in their position. Even if you don’t agree with them, acknowledge their feelings. Use “I” expressions to communicate feelings without accusation. For instance, substitute “I feel unheard when you interrupt me” for “You never listen to me!”
I statement focuses on expressing your feelings, expectations, and desires rather than the character of the other person. Instead of using YOU language, one could utilize I feel phrases to calmly and assertively communicate the issue. Talking about the traits, flaws or getting past into present is what your language is all about. In this manner, the other individual won’t be defensive and will be willing to listen to you. This will enable problem solving skills too. Anger control also aids in reducing impulsivity, which is the root cause of poor communication abilities. This will assist you in stopping, thinking, and then speaking. Additionally, it helps work on the person’s ego, which aids in the cycle of defensiveness and attack. Therefore, practicing assertive communication and anger management techniques can be beneficial in building good relationships
By Priyanka Kapoor, Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Couple and Family Counselor, TEDx Speaker. contact@therapistpriyanka.com ; www.therapistpriyanka.com
Priyanka is a resident of Altamont Road on our Hills.
